As the bride, sometimes it's difficult to say everything you want to say to your bridesmaids... so I decided to say it for you, to your beautiful and amazing bridesmaids..... Here it goes...
Dear beautiful bridesmaid,
If I haven't already told you yet... THANK YOU. Thank you for not only being an amazing friend (or family member), an awesome supporter of me and my future, but now standing by my side as a make the biggest commitment to the love of my life. I could NOT do this without you.
You have always been there for me, and I know that you always will be. I chose you to be a bridesmaid for that very reason! I love you so much, and cherish our friendship more than I can express. I need you at my side for my wedding... keeping me from crying too much, helping relieve my nerves, flashing me smiles... and most of all, being a good friend by sharing in the joy with me on the best day of my life. I truly couldn't do this as easily without you. I hope you know how much it means to me that you agreed to be a part of my bridal party.
As much as I would love for you to be a part in everything that takes place in preparation for the wedding day (showers, appointments, fittings, planning days, work days, tastings, etc.), I totally understand that you already have a busy schedule and a busy life as it is, so if you can't make it to a couple of things, please don't worry! It is so important to me to have you there on the days that I could use your help, guidance, input, or just simply your support... as many of these events that you are able to attend, I am SO so appreciative. It is by no means a requirement to attend any of them, (the bridal shower and rehearsal dinner kind of are). I won't hold it against you if you can't make it to something.. because I know that if you can make it, you will. Typically bridesmaids do attend things like that (if requested), because it is part of the experience and part of the "duties" a bridesmaid holds, but like I said, seriously don't worry if it just won't work out for some of them. These things should be full of fun though, and having you there makes it ten times more fun!
Next, I understand that finances can be tricky, especially when it comes to a wedding... so if money is ever an issue for you, please bring that to my attention as soon as possible, so that we can come up with a solution that works for both of us. I don't want you to miss out on anything over finances. I know that the bridesmaid dress, jewelry, and shoes can all get pricey, so I am going to do my best to find those items at the most reasonable costs. I also know that bridesmaid dresses can be a little ugly... so bear with me as I try to find one you can all wear again after the wedding! There are so many options, and I have been dreaming of this day for so long, that I want it to be everything I ever wanted, including the way my best ladies look standing beside me.. but I will definitely keep you all in mind while we find the right one.
Lastly, as a bridesmaid it's pretty typical for you to have a few "duties" on the wedding day... I hope that you will do your best to help with anything possible, and be there to support and help me through any stress that comes up.
On the wedding day, I plan to get ready with all of you, and would SO appreciate it if we kept everything calm while we get ready. It's easy to get caught up in the excitement, and forget to take care of me. So please, before you bombard me with a million questions, ask my coordinator first. Before you nitpick over your appearance, compliment mine. Before playing your favorite music, ask me if there is something I would like to listen to. Before you talk a million words per minute, see if I need some quiet time. Before you get dressed, double check if I need anything. Gently keep me on schedule. Keep stress, or problems that arise away from me as much as possible. Just please remember that it's my big day, and you are there to serve and support me. You can bet I will gladly do the same for you on your wedding day girlfriend.
Ok, on to more of those "duties"... keep stress, problems, arguments, questions, and any other mishaps out my eyesight and earshot. I don't need any added stress, and I bet it can be solved by someone other than me.
Handle any vendor problems, shield me from any guest drama, help me laugh, fluff my dress, bring an extra bobby pin, touch up my lipstick, hold my train when we walk, tell me I am beautiful, and lastly, just keep smiling and being an amazing friend through it all. I seriously can't thank you enough for helping me on such a whirlwind of a day that it is going to be.
I CANNOT wait! You are the best. Love you, and please let me know if there is anything I can do to ease your mind at any point in this process. Don't be shy, remember that we are such good friends. Remember that if I do anything that hurt your feelings, I probably did not intend to and that we can always talk about anything together. I want this process to be as fun, joyful, and amazing as possible for both of us. Let's make some amazing memories together <3 Thank you so much for it all. I just know that you are going to rock it as a bridesmaid, and that this day is going to be the best day ever.